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You Hurt My Feelings

A novelist's longstanding marriage is suddenly upended when she overhears her husband giving his honest reaction to her latest book. (R, 93 min.)

From acclaimed filmmaker Nicole Holofcener comes a sharply observed comedy about a novelist whose long standing marriage is suddenly upended when she overhears her husband give his honest reaction to her latest book. A film about trust, lies, and the things we say to the people we love most. [A24]

Starring:Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Tobias Menzies, Michaela Watkins
Director: Nicole Holofcener
Genre(s): Comedy, Drama

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"Holofcener and Louis-Dreyfus again make for perfectly pitched partners."

— Benjamin Lee, The Guardian

"Smart, warm, and very, very funny."

— Jason Bailey, The Playlist

"One of [Holofcener's] smartest and funniest films."

— Brian Tallerico,

"The resulting film is warm-hearted and rueful and hilarious in all the best ways."

— Alissa Wilkinson, Vox

"A barbed comedy about human failings and the equally human tendency not to be truthful about them."

— Peter Howell, Toronto Star

"While Holofcener doesn’t ultimately dispute that it’s nice to be nice, she does suggest that it’s worth remembering constant positivity has its own negatives."

— Amber Wilkinson, Screen Daily

"As a story about how New Yorkers get by, making marriages and family relationships work in one of the toughest cities of the world, it’s both smart and entertaining."

— Stephanie Zacharek, Time

"You Hurt My Feelings is a quirky, incisive study of ego death, of what happens when you learn you’re not the hot stuff you thought you were and have to recalibrate accordingly."

— Clint Worthington, Consequence

"Holofcener weaves these people and their problems together in delicate fashion, guiding us toward her thematic conclusions in a way that never feels starchy, didactic, too lesson-oriented. She’s got a light touch, a humane one too."

— Richard Lawson, Vanity Fair

"Holofcener offers sharp observations on marriage, professional success, and insecurities that sometimes become self-fulfilling prophecies, doing so with both an earnest (sometimes laugh out loud) sense of humor and a keenly observant eye."

— Tomris Laffly, AV Club

"There’s a modesty about You Hurt My Feelings that makes it seem in some ways as simple and straightforward as its title. But Holofcener is such a gifted writer that it becomes a mosaic of mildly absurd minutiae, mixed in with legitimate feelings."

— David Rooney, The Hollywood Reporter

"You Hurt My Feelings is the type of film that reminds us why Holofcener is one of the best writers of comedies today, and that her ability to write films with such small consequences can often feel like a massive achievement, as these are situations that feel honest and human and wholly earnest."

— Ross Bonaime, Collider

"On the surface, the plot is simple, but the nuances, keen observations, silences between words, the humanity of it all, and the ease with which the filmmaker effortlessly navigates turbulent currents subtly transform the feature into a complex drama. There are no heroes or villains, no good or bad people, just folks trying to figure themselves and each other out."

— Alex Saveliev, Film Threat